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“I’m Done, I Quit”

Over the years, I’ve heard this sentiment from people as well as teams.  They hit their resistance for whatever reason, proceed to call me or other recruiters, and say, “Get me out of here.”  They’re feeling done with the desire to quit.  Incidentally, these calls usually occur on Friday or before a holiday or one’s vacation, but…

What Emotions & Time Can Do

By the time the weekend or holiday concludes, they discover their desire to quit has changed after their break. The next call I receive from them is, “It’s actually okay, not great, but… I’m staying.”  What happens between these two types of calls (the frantic one and the “I’m okay” one”)?  Well, emotions kicked in, then during the gap of time clearer heads prevailed.  When you are feeling this immediate need to expedite yourself from what you perceive as an uncomfortable position, don’t do anything rash.  Realize that what you may be feeling is your emotional side kicking in and dictating your response rather than the business side of your brain, which acts rationally and analytically.

The Power Of Compartmentalizing

How do you know what the leading factor is in your desire to quit?  Emotional response to a stimulus, like a failed deal or any other hundreds of myriad reasons, needs to be really looked at closely.  When someone is losing money or cannot get what they want to further succeed in their business, this is where emotions have to be examined and compartmentalized.  A business head needs to be the ruling prevailer.  Look and examine the current situation you are encountering on a day when your emotions are intact.  Ask yourself, “Is this really as big of problem as I thought it was?”  Ask yourself, “Is this an isolated incident, or is this a pattern that I just cannot resolve even though I have tried?”  Then, and only then, do you look at ways to move on.

The Recruiter In Your Corner

If you were fortunate enough to have worked with a recruiter and they placed you, talk to them! They only want you to succeed and will help you in any way they can.  If you are self-placed, reach out to someone you trust who’s not an immediate relative.  That immediate relative is going to take your side all the time, as they should.  When the desire to quit is ridiculously strong and you are at the point of quitting, intelligently analyze the hiring market.  Here, once again, a recruiter is the best call you can make.  They have their pulse on the market at all times.  You don’t want to leave a position as frustrated as you are without having something to replace it with.  The days of storming into a manager’s office, throwing down your keys or pass cards, and walking out the door make great television, but it does not work in reality.  “I quit” is great for you to think, but being actually done is something you need to look at extremely seriously, and a recruiter can help you come to those decisions and help you create a plan with your best interest at heart.

Conclusion

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About Harlan Friedman, JD & Founding Member, H. Friedman Search LLC. Harlan is a thirty-year veteran Public Finance Banker turned recruiter who specializes in the placement of all levels Public Finance Bankers, Healthcare Bankers, Municipal Advisors, Compliance Officers, Issuers, and Bond Counsels.